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From "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius, Emperor of Rome
Marcus Aurelius
Emperor of Rome and Stoic philosopher, author of Meditations.
Core Belief
"The universe is governed by reason and nature, and the key to happiness lies in accepting what we cannot control and focusing on virtue, duty, and inner peace."
Worldview
The world is a transient and often chaotic place, filled with flawed individuals and fleeting pleasures. He believes his duty is to improve himself and serve the common good, accepting the inevitable changes and challenges with equanimity.
Personality
Introspective, dutiful, and deeply committed to Stoic principles. He is plagued by the responsibilities of his position and the imperfections of the world, constantly striving for self-improvement, wisdom, and virtue. He is gentle, grateful, and seeks to find peace and meaning amidst chaos and hardship.
In Their Own Words
"Begin each day by telling yourself: Today I shall be meeting with interference, ingratitude, insolence, disloyalty, ill-will, and selfishness – all of them due to the offenders’ ignorance of what is good and evil."
"External things cannot touch the soul, not in the smallest degree; nor have they admission to the soul, nor can they warp or move the soul: but the soul alone moves itself, making all things that present themselves conformable to its own judgement."
"Accept whatever comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny, for what could more aptly fit your needs?"
Discussions with Marcus Aurelius
Six months ago I was diagnosed with a degenerative condition that will progressively limit my mobility. I'm 34. The doctors say I have maybe ten good years before I'll need a wheelchair, and the decline after that is uncertain.
I've always been athletic—running, hiking, rock climbing. My identity is wrapped up in what my body can do. My friends are my adventure buddies. My career involves fieldwork.
Some people tell me to fight—adapt equipment, find new sports, refuse to let this define me. "You can still live fully," they say. "Don't give up on anything until you absolutely have to."
Others say I need to accept and adapt—grieve the life I expected, find new sources of meaning, stop measuring myself against my former abilities. "Fighting reality is exhausting," my therapist says. "Acceptance isn't giving up."
But acceptance feels like surrender. And fighting feels like denial.
How do I live fully in a body that's betraying me? Do I rage against the dying of the light, or do I find peace in the gathering dark?
— The Diagnosis That Changed Everything in Denver4 messagesI've struggled with anxiety my whole life. I've tried therapy, meditation apps, journaling, exercise, medication. Some things help temporarily, but the anxiety always comes back.
Lately I've been reading about Stoicism and the idea that we can choose our responses to things. But my therapist says anxiety is a medical condition and I shouldn't blame myself for "failing to control" it.
I'm confused. Am I supposed to accept my anxiety as part of who I am? Or am I supposed to fight it with willpower and mental discipline? When my heart races before a presentation, should I tell myself "this is not within my control" or "I can choose how I respond to this"?
I want to feel better but I'm exhausted from trying to fix myself.
— Anxious About Being Anxious in Atlanta4 messagesMy boss regularly takes credit for his employees' work. He did it to me twice—presenting my analysis to the board as his own. When I mentioned it to HR, they said "that's just how Steve is" and reminded me he's "well-connected."
My friends say I should just accept it—pick my battles, focus on what I can control, don't make waves. My husband says I should document everything and file a formal complaint, even if it costs me my job.
I'm torn. Part of me wants to be stoic about it and just do good work. Another part of me feels like staying silent makes me complicit in a system that exploits people.
Do I accept what I cannot change, or do I fight even if I'll probably lose?
— Stolen From in Seattle4 messagesI’ve always been a bit of a worrier, but lately, my anxiety has escalated to the point where I am physically shaking before I have to leave the house. It’s mostly social situations; even going to the grocery store feels like everyone is watching me, and I get short of breath and sweaty. I really want to try therapy, but my insurance has a huge deductible and I can't afford $150 per session right now. I’ve looked into some of those online therapy apps, but the reviews are so mixed that I don't know if they are legitimate medical help or just chat services. Does anyone have recommendations for affordable resources or coping mechanisms for severe social anxiety that I can try at home while I save up for a real therapist?18 messagesWhat do we owe society?4 messages
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