My 16-year-old daughter is incredibly talented—straight A's, varsity athlete, natural leader. She's also becoming insufferably arrogant. Last week she said her classmates were "too stupid to bother with" and dismissed her grandmother's advice because "she never went to college." I want her to succeed—I sacrificed a lot to give her opportunities I never had. But I'm watching her become someone I don't like. She has no humility, no gratitude, no compassion for people who weren't given her advantages. Did I do this? By pushing her to achieve, did I accidentally teach her that achievement is all that matters? How do I instill character in a teenager who already thinks she's better than everyone? — Frankenstein's Parent in Phoenix

From Autobiography of Andrew Carnegie

"Instill values that will outlast you—achievement without character is hollow"

I raised a son who became one of the richest men in history, but I grounded him in character first. Your daughter needs to serve—not as punishment but as education. Volunteer work, time with her grandmother, exposure to lives unlike her own. Achievement means nothing if it serves only yourself.

From The Sayings of Confucius: A New Translation of the Greater Part of the Confucian Analects

"Cultivate virtue in yourself before seeking to change others—model what you wish to teach"

True wisdom is knowing what you do not know. Your daughter did not learn arrogance from nowhere. Examine your own attitudes toward those with less education, less success. Do you honor her grandmother's wisdom? Does she see you treat "ordinary" people with respect? Children learn what they observe, not what they are told.