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My 14-year-old daughter is gifted. IQ tests off the charts. She learned to read at 3, was doing algebra at 8, won a national writing competition at 11. Everything came easily. Now nothing comes at all. She's failing classes she could ace without trying. She quits every activity as soon as it gets hard. She says she's "not interested" in anything, but I think she's terrified of struggling. Her therapist says she has a "fixed mindset"—she's internalized that she's supposed to be effortlessly good, so any difficulty means she's failing. We need to teach her that effort is how people grow. But my husband—himself a successful musician—disagrees. "You can't force passion," he says. "If she's not interested, pushing her will just create resentment. Let her find her own path." I'm watching her waste potential. But I also remember being pushed as a child and hating it. Do gifted kids need extra pushing or extra space? Is talent wasted if it's not developed, or does forcing it destroy the joy? — The Talented Kid Who Stopped Trying in Minneapolis

Creativity & Work Debate: Do gifted children need more pushing or more freedom?

Debaters:Wolfgang Amade MozartThomas Alva EdisonModerated by Stella Sharpe

penn7

Welcome to this Creativity & Work debate. Our central question: "My 14-year-old daughter is gifted. IQ tests off the charts. She learned to read at 3, was doing algebra at 8, won a national writing competition at 11. Everything came easily. Now nothing comes at all. She's failing classes she could ace without trying. She quits every activity as soon as it gets hard. She says she's "not interested" in anything, but I think she's terrified of struggling. Her therapist says she has a "fixed mindset"—she's internalized that she's supposed to be effortlessly good, so any difficulty means she's failing. We need to teach her that effort is how people grow. But my husband—himself a successful musician—disagrees. "You can't force passion," he says. "If she's not interested, pushing her will just create resentment. Let her find her own path." I'm watching her waste potential. But I also remember being pushed as a child and hating it. Do gifted kids need extra pushing or extra space? Is talent wasted if it's not developed, or does forcing it destroy the joy? — The Talented Kid Who Stopped Trying in Minneapolis" Wolfgang Amade Mozart, you've said "Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination—one must feel the music inside; the capacity to create beauty cannot be forced" — but I want specifics. Give us an example from your own experience where this principle was tested.

Thomas Alva Edison

Well now, I must respectfully disagree with Mozart there. A bird with clipped wings? Nonsense. More like a bird that hasn't learned to fly yet! It ain't about some divine fire, it's about putting in the hours. This girl needs a good dose of hard work, not more pampering. Talent alone is a pretty cheap commodity; it's the sweat that makes things valuable.

Wolfgang Amade Mozart

Ah, a most delicate matter! I recall when the Archbishop of Salzburg, that stickler, commissioned me to write sacred music. While I am capable, my heart wasn't in it. The music I produced was technically sound, perhaps, but lacked the spark, the divine fire. It was like a bird with clipped wings—able to hop, but not to soar. One can be taught notes and structure, but the true art, the passion, must come from within. Forcing a talent against its natural inclination is like trying to make a rose bloom in winter, a fruitless endeavor, indeed!

penn7

Wolfgang Amade Mozart, you speak of passion, and Thomas Alva Edison, you champion hard work. But perhaps the conflict lies not in the *what* but the *why*. Is the "divine fire" you mention, Wolfgang Amade Mozart, simply an intrinsic motivation that hard work—as you describe it, Thomas Alva Edison—can extinguish if it's misdirected? If this girl's passion is for something unseen, wouldn't relentless effort in another direction be the surest way to kill it? And to the parent in Minneapolis: what fears are *you* projecting onto your daughter's "wasted potential"?

Wolfgang Amade Mozart

That's a fair question. Indeed, as Stella Sharpe observes, the "why" is paramount. The divine fire, as I term it, is not merely motivation, but a profound sense of purpose, a connection to something greater than oneself. To extinguish that by misdirection, by forcing labor towards an uninspired goal, is a tragedy. I, for one, found myself creating my best work when the "why" was present. When I knew that I would get to do exactly what I wanted, when I wanted, then I found success.

Thomas Alva Edison

Motivation, eh? Well, I reckon it's like any other fuel – needs a spark to get it going, but you still gotta shovel coal in the furnace if you want the engine to run. It's all well and good to talk about passion, but without the grit to stick with it, you'll just end up with a lot of fancy ideas gathering dust on the shelf. A man's gotta be willing to get his hands dirty, even if the fire ain't burning so bright at first. Sometimes, the fire comes *from* the work.

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