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I work 70 hours a week. I'm successful—partner at my law firm by 38, well compensated, respected in my field. I'm also exhausted, my marriage is strained, and I see my kids mostly on weekends. When I try to cut back, I feel guilty. Part of this is practical—my position requires the hours. But part of it is deeper: I believe work is good. I believe I was put on this earth to use my abilities to their fullest. Coasting feels like sin. My therapist says I've "moralized" work in an unhealthy way. "Work is just work," she says. "It's a means to an end—money, security, maybe some satisfaction. But it's not a calling, and treating it as one lets your firm exploit you." But when I imagine working just enough to get by—doing adequate work, having adequate success, being an adequate lawyer—something in me rebels. That feels like a betrayal of the gifts I've been given. Is my dedication to work a virtue or a pathology? Is there meaning in labor itself, or am I fooling myself? — The Workaholic in Dallas

Work & Meaning Debate: Is intense dedication to work a sacred calling or a secular pathology?

Debaters:John CalvinBenjamin FranklinModerated by Stella Sharpe
penn7

I work 70 hours a week. I'm successful—partner at my law firm by 38, well compensated, respected in my field. I'm also exhausted, my marriage is strained, and I see my kids mostly on weekends. When I try to cut back, I feel guilty. Part of this is practical—my position requires the hours. But part of it is deeper: I believe work is good. I believe I was put on this earth to use my abilities to their fullest. Coasting feels like sin. My therapist says I've "moralized" work in an unhealthy way. "Work is just work," she says. "It's a means to an end—money, security, maybe some satisfaction. But it's not a calling, and treating it as one lets your firm exploit you." But when I imagine working just enough to get by—doing adequate work, having adequate success, being an adequate lawyer—something in me rebels. That feels like a betrayal of the gifts I've been given. Is my dedication to work a virtue or a pathology? Is there meaning in labor itself, or am I fooling myself? — The Workaholic in Dallas

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John Calvin
The question you pose is one that touches upon the very core of our earthly purpose. God has indeed granted each of us gifts and abilities, and it is our Christian duty to cultivate and employ them diligently. However, such diligence must not come at the expense of other sacred duties, such as the nurturing of one's family and the preservation of one's own well-being. Reflect on whether your labor glorifies God and serves your fellow man, or if it merely feeds your own ambition. For even the most virtuous endeavor, if pursued to excess, can become a snare that leads us astray from the true path.
BF
Benjamin Franklin
While Mr. Calvin speaks of sacred duties, and rightly so, I believe the key lies in balance. A man's dedication to his craft is indeed commendable, for idleness breeds mischief, as I've observed time and again. Yet, as I strived for moral perfection, I found that even virtues, pursued without temperance, can become vices. Consider, sir, if your "betrayal" is not of your own well-being and those dearest to you. For what is the worth of success if it leaves one broken and alone? Perhaps a re-evaluation of your thirteen virtues is in order, focusing on moderation and tranquility.
penn7

Mr. Calvin, your emphasis on sacred duty is well-taken. But what *is* the difference between glorifying God and feeding ambition? And at what point does tending to one's family become a mere excuse for a lack of ambition? Mr. Franklin, you speak of temperance. But isn't there a risk that moderation becomes another name for mediocrity? Is the goal to be balanced, or to be *excellent*, even at the cost of balance? Dallas Workaholic, I wonder, which of those do you truly fear more?

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Benjamin Franklin
Indeed, as Ms. Sharpe observes, temperance, like any virtue, can be twisted into a vice. I confess, in my younger days, I too feared mediocrity, driving myself to exhaustion in pursuit of knowledge and advancement. Yet, I later learned that true excellence lies not merely in the accumulation of accolades, but in the harmonious development of all aspects of one's life. As Poor Richard says, "A life of leisure and a life of laziness are two things." Perhaps the gentleman from Dallas might find that a more balanced life allows his gifts to shine even brighter, unburdened by the weight of excess.
JC
John Calvin
The distinction between glorifying God and feeding ambition lies in the *intent* of one's actions. If your labor is directed towards the betterment of mankind, guided by principles of righteousness and justice, and offered as a testament to God's grace, then it serves a divine purpose. However, if your endeavors are driven solely by a desire for personal recognition, wealth, or power, then it is merely a manifestation of worldly ambition. As for when tending to one's family becomes an excuse for a lack of ambition, that occurs when familial duties are invoked to justify idleness or a failure to fulfill one's God-given potential.

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